in for life........

day 21 **your best friend is in a car accident and the two of you got into fight an hour before. what do you do**

i have to start by saying i have never had an actual "fight" with either of my two closest friends. i met them both 6 months apart when we were all working for the same company almost ten years ago now. and those two relationships  have stood the test of time but more importantly they have prevailed through all three of us going through major life changes many times.

both my BFFs (i swore i wouldn't use that term but there..its done!!) are now with their life partners and have kids (some of them human, some of them of the furry variety). we have all struggled through various relationship issues and done it together and shared those experiences. we have supported and encouraged each other through career changes, living location changes, family issues, financially difficult and financially fun times, health problems, and so much more. we have had thousands and thousands of coffees..we have walked a million steps through shopping centres and said countless times "oh i def think you should get that"  

there has been death. of relationships, people, pets, jobs. there has been sadness at moving away from each other. and there has been much happiness at births and additions and successes. and through all of that as i look back at those two relationships i dont remember one angry word between us. because i am blessed to have friends who are responsible for themselves and have amazing boundaries so that we are able to connect without taking away from each other leaving the other scared and in need of protection, which seems to me to be the basis for any battleground. we take care of ourselves first and in that are able to be together and take care of each other

but if in the future there was to be an argument for some reason i would do whatever was needed. i committed to these relationships a long time ago and i am in them for life. so we would work through whatever the issue was but in that moment of crisis the argument would be put aside and i would go to my friend. and i would stay. day and night. until there was no need for me to do that anymore....and i know that they would both do that for me without a second thought.